LOVE NOT A GUARANTEE FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you,self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going.With those characteristics,no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet.We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.
Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..

May Almighty God guide us all to the right path...

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Love & Relationship; The Do's In Relationship

DO’S IN A RELATIONSHIP
Here are some tips that could help you foster a perfect relationship which you have always dreamt of building.Remember, nothing good comes easy, you’ve got to be passionate about whatever thing you want.

GO ON FREQUENT DATES

Going on frequent dates will help you to grow fond of your partner in a relationship and help you to also help you both to spend quality time with one another.

BE SINCERE WITH ONE ANOTHER

Always make your intentions known when you both are together, let him or her know how you feel. Be sure that you are doing the right thing by going into a relationship with him or her, however, if it is the reversal; take your time to let him or her know there is nothing productive coming out of your relationship.

HAVE FUN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Keep your relationship fun- filled by visiting exotic places, meeting with new people, visiting friends, trying out new meals, do things that will make you both happy and keep external opinions away from your mind.

TAKE UP RESPONSIBILITIES FOR EACH OTHER

Be responsible towards your partner, ensure you are on the lookout for each other and show your partner that you appreciate them for everything, even the little things done for you.

You could take up responsibility as a lady by splitting check with your partner when you’re out on a date. Never make your partner feel that they are to take responsibilities for every of your expenses when you both are out shopping and having a date.

Focus on enhancing your communication levels with one another, talk about things you both find exciting to talk about, share some jokes and talk about your day to day activities

COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER OFTEN

Take time to compliment each other frequently, tell your partner how good he or she is looking, let him or her know that you love them, talk about how much you like what they are putting on and how lucky you feel having them around you.

LEARN EACH OTHER’S TIMING

Be sensitive enough to know when your partner is ready to talk, when he is ready to do certain things you want to do so as to avoid any form of misunderstanding. Talk about your timing preference and be sure to pay attention to and respect them.
I hope you enjoyd reading this keep checking here for updates on relationship.

Ladies! These are 10 Things You Must Know About Guys Right Now – No. 7 Will Interest You

Everyone knows that women are from Venus and men are from Mars, and just like guys say that women are akin to unsolvable Chinese puzzles who they will never understand, we say the same thing about guys.

Indeed, no matter how much you think you know your man, there will always be that unreadable glance, or that vague thing he says over dinner that makes you think, “Just what on earth is he thinking? Is he angry with me? Sad? Is he going to break up with me? OMG!”

We might drive guys crazy with our ambiguous ways, but guys drive us equally as crazy. But the great thing is that there are 10 things every girl has a right to know about guys – and we’re about to explain them to you!

1. Guys Get Nervous Too

When you go on a first date with a man, you’re naturally nervous. You’re terrified in case you smudge your makeup on your way to meet him, scared in case the wind knocks your hair out of whack, and anxious in case you accidentally spill your Processo ALL OVER HIM.

Guys are nervous too, though. Sure, they’re supposed to be all manly, and sure they take the lead and choose where to go, and they even pick up the bill with an assuredness that seems to be out of this world. But underneath it all, they’re just as terrified as you are and every time they take a sip of their beer they fret that they’re about to spill it all over you.

2. Guys Love Compliments

Yes, everyone does, even guys. A good compliment said in the right time can be a real game changer. Guys actually crave compliments, and it’s not because they are attention seeking or needy, it’s because they just hardly ever get any. Of course, guys prefer different types of compliments than we, ladies, do, and things like: ‘Oh, you look pretty gorgeous today!’ will only make a guy feel awkward; but you can’t go amiss when you compliment his skills, talents, manly behavior or strength.

3. Guys Don’t Actually Want A Threesome

Yes, many guys will tell you that their ultimate fantasy is a threesome, with some of the more creepier ones saying they want a fivesome. They want you and some random woman you pick up on a night out, all together in one bed. Shoulders, elbows, and 6 knees; they want it all!

The truth, though, is that it really is just a fantasy. Guys love their women and they don’t want anything to mess up their relationship, and especially not a threesome. See, whilst it may seem enjoyable for him to be cavorting with another women, he’s actually more worried that youseem to be enjoying it. Poor guy!

4. He Thinks You Are Actually Fine When You Say You’re Fine

“Hey, you okay? I know we had a bit of an argument last night. I just wanted to text to see if you were okay and whether I should come round later. I love you. I really do, I mean it.”

“I’m fine.”

“Cool!! Does that mean I can go out for some beers with the guys tonight?”

After 40,000 years of evolution, guys still haven’t realised that “I’m fine” means “I’M SO ANGRY AT YOU!”

Apparently it’s a fault in their brain mechanism that only a super scientist could ever correct. But because such a correction would cost $56 billion, it’s never going to happen. Oh, guys.

5. He Can Actually Cook

Sure, he can cook. He can cook some excellent dishes, and can even make a buff soufflé.

He won’t tell you, of course. After all, he doesn’t want to get roped into cooking your meals for you. Instead, he wants you to wait on him hand and foot. He’ll even set fire to a piece of toast just to prove that he’s rubbish in the kitchen.

“I thought toast was supposed to be set on fire.”

6. Guys Need Breaks

Your man loves you, there is no denying it. And whilst they may vow to spend the rest of their days with you, it doesn’t mean they should have to spend every single second with you.

Guys need a break from us. It’s natural. They want a bit of me-time now and then, they need to see their buddies and do guy-stuff. They want to hit the golf course, go to Vegas, or just play some video games with their pals. And whilst it’s nice of you to suggest that he plays golf with you, it just isn’t the same for him. Especially when you keep missing the ball.

“Honey, just hit the ball. Please.”

7. Guys Cry Too

Guys might be masculine lions who enjoy dominating, but it doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy a good cry like the ladies.

The thing is, guys tend not to cry in front of us. But, just like us, they’re still humans who are actually subject to real, human emotions. I know right!

Unlike robots, men actually do get sad. They might weep over a teary film or they might have a moment to themselves, when they think of family members or friends who have passed away.

Every now and then they will even cry if you burn their dinner.

“You burnt the steak? Okay. Give me a moment.”

8. Guys Are Hard-Wired To Look At Women

It’s very easy to get angry and upset when we spot our man checking out another woman, but we shouldn’t take it so seriously.

See, guys are actually hard-wired to check out women! They have six times more testosterone than we do, and this can often cause their libido to get out of control, particularly when there are women around. So what happens is they check women out on auto-pilot. Whilst it seems as though they’re ogling your cute best friend and mentally undressing her, it really isn’t his fault!

Unless he reaches in and kisses her. He definitely can’t blame that on his testosterone.

“It’s the testosterone, honey, I swear!”

Nope, doesn’t cut it.

9. Guys Have Dreams

It may not seem like it after yet another day of toeing the line at work and coming home shattered, but guys do have thoughts above and beyond tomorrow. They have dreams and big plans for the future that they might not share with you, in case you shoot them down.

But despite appearing to be people who live for the day and who struggle to organise the bills, guys do think ahead to what life might be like in 5 years’ time.

10. Guys Treat Dinner Very Seriously

If you’re the kind of girl who orders a salad whilst he orders a steak with all the works, he isn’t going to be too happy if you then proceed to steal all his fries.

You ordered a salad for a reason and he ordered a steak for a reason, so suck it up and eat your cucumbers!

And, no, he doesn’t want to swap a chunk of steak for a few cherry tomatoes.

Do you know other fun facts about guys?

Articles: Types of STDs by MrJuno

For those of us that thinks that all STDs can be prevented by wearing condoms of different types even the iron ones..am here to tell you that you cannot prevent  all STDs by wearing condoms...see photos below...ZipUp-Up..

Spiritual and Physical Fasts About Sex.

===Do you know that when two people have sex, they both cantact evil spirits from each other?

===Do you know that all the new spirits that you cantacted from your sex partner will now have a physical reactions on you in a way that you will see yourself doing somethings that you dont do before..like you dont get angry easily before and now that you have had sex with a hot tempered person you start noticing that you now get angry easily..

===Do you know that evil spirits manifest in human beings through their characters..assuming you have like 3 evil spirits=1.anger, 2.sexuality and 3.gossip! gossip!..

so with this few points of mine, I think I have been able to tell you that as much men and women you sleep with so will the number of evil spirits in you will be increasing. so stop sexing today and go for a deliverance session cos I think am seeing something in you right now...lol

...(oh wait a minite, one of the spirits in me is asking me what is some sleeps with a man on God...what   spirit will him or she get?....drop your answers/ comments below!

Article by MrJuno

Relationship tips: If A Man Tells You Any Of These words, Run for your Life

I saw this piece which I consider funny and I
thought it wise to share, of course this must
have been written by a lady………….
It doesn’t matter how much of a gentleman he
has been up until that point: if a man you’re
getting to know at a bar, on a date, or online
says any of these lines, run —before he breaks
your heart, or gives you the overwhelming
urge to slap him.
*“I Could Never Date A Woman Who Earns
More Than I Do ”
So essentially, this man’s sense of self-worth,
his sense of having an equal hand in a
relationship, his sense of being
amancompletely goes out the window when
your salary exceeds his. It wouldn’t just bother
him a little to not be able to treat you to nicer
things. He is saying hecould not standto have a
woman make more money than he does. Forget
if she is happy in her career: if it makes him
unhappy , he’s out of there. Pretty selfish
when you think about it that way.
* “I Banged This One Chick”
Don’t trust guys who say banged in
seriousness. Plenty of guys use that term
jokingly, but men who use it in casual
conversation, in lieu of “hooked up with” or
“slept with” have pretty degrading views of
women . Think about that word: “banged.” It
implies asserting complete control over
something, it can even imply causing pain to
something, and it implies doing something
rapidly then moving on. Gee. What a romantic.
* “I Don’t Find Women Funny”
Science has actually found a connection
between a sense of humor and intelligence.
That study helps us make a quick connection to
this next point: men who say women aren’t
funny are essentially saying women are not
smart. To be funny you need to be astute, to
pick up on subtle, unspoken connections
happening around you, to analyze people. A
man who says a woman isn’t funny is saying
that a woman can’t do those things.
* “What Happens In Vegas Stays In Vegas”
Anyone who actually uses this saying as a
license to cheat on their significant other, get
arrested for indecent exposure, pick upa street
walker, and gamble away money is someone
who is looking for excuses to behave poorly.
And they’ll look for them Vegas or no Vegas.
* “I Don’t Like To Use Condoms”
This is not an excuse not to use one! I mean,
try a little harder like, “I just got all my test
results back and they were negative” or “I’ve
never had unprotected sex before.” I’m not
saying a women should consent to not using a
condom for those reasons, but at least it
shows that you don’t think you’re completely
entitled to putting a woman at risk of painful
and even deadly illnesses, all because you
don’t “like’ to use condoms. Sorry, do you also
not like the crusts left on your sandwich little
boy?
* “She Was Such A H*”
Are some women, well, slutty? Yes. Does
anything good come of calling them so? No.
Only a very angry man—typically with anger
against women in general—openly calls his ex
girlfriend a “wh*re.”
* “Because She Was Being silly ”
If this is a man’s answer when you ask, “So
why did you and your ex breakup?” you have a
man with zero communication skills on your
hands. Oh, and to compensate for his barely-
there vocabulary, he just trash talks his ex.
“She was being silly”? What is she—a friend
who stole your toy truck?
* “So I Just Stopped Answering Her Calls ”
Another non-communicator on your hands.
You know all those guys who broke your heart
and made you feel like you didn’t matter when
they just stopped responding to your texts and
calls? Well just because this particular guy
didn’t do that to you, he is still one of them!
He is the type who will avoid confrontation
and open communication at all costs, even if
that means making a woman think she’s done
something wrong when she has not.
*“FML, LOL, ROLF”
Men who can’t speak like grownups are not
grownups. It’s okay to occasionally—jokingly—
speak in Twitter jargon. But a guy who speaks
like this regularly, and seriously, probably also
still drinks too much during the week and
“bangs” chicks.
*“I Got Hookups All Over Town ”
If a guy is telling you how he could get you
into the busiest clubs, get you a table right
now at the most sought after restaurant, and
introduce you to a celebrity this means two
things: A) He is proud of some pretty silly stuff
and B) He is a major partier/playboy!
* “My Girlfriend /Wife Just Doesn’t Understand
Me ”
Philandering men love to appeal to a woman’s
sensitive side when looking for a hookup. They
know women like to analyze and “understand”
people and when they hear those little magic
words, “My wife doesn’t understand me…” it’s
like a challenge to understand the guy. And
somehow, in the process, he can try to seduce
you. If this guy actually cared about his
marriage/relationship he wouldn’t be out
telling strangers in tight dresses about his
problems: he’d be at home fixing them. I hope enjoyd reading this drop your comments.

How To Avoid Break-up In Relationship And Marriage

A real Relationship is an agreement between
a man and a woman with marriage as the
end goal. If you are in this type of marriage,
you are partners in a pre-marriage
relationship. You are the one that needs to
learn this secret that can mould you into the
ideal spouse for each other. The challenges
in relationship and even marriage are based
on the ignorance of couples on these four
pillars that can make or break your
relationship.
A recent research indicates that 50 percent
of marriages will end up in divorce while 85
percent of relationship will end in a break-
up. If there is a 50 percent and 15 percent
that can survive in marriage and
relationship, it is an indication that your
relationship and marriage can be a part of
them; you only need to know what to do
and how to do it.
Most relationships and marriages break-up
because one or both partners have not:
mastered their emotions
conquered negative patterns
become an asset
become extremely teachable
These four components are the pillar that
makes The High-Value Partner™ who he is.
This is the ideal partner; a partner to die for
who will give you the happiness you are
looking for in your relationship and
consequently marriage.
Mastering Your Emotions
When you have mastered your emotions you
will know yourself, I mean all there is to
know about you and you will have self
mastery over these six areas – food, sex,
anger, money, sleep, talk.
Knowing yourself involves understanding
your personality, why you get angry over
the things you get angry about? Why you
love the things you love and why you hate
the things you hate? It involves knowing
what you are not extremely good at and
knowing every little detail you can about
yourself. When you don’t know yourself
deep enough, you will be shocked at the
negative things you can do in your
relationship.
Some men never believed they had the
capacity to slap their women until they did;
that is a lack of deep knowledge of self.
Some women argued that they can never
cheat on their spouse but they did; it’s
because they haven’t looked at their life to
have a deep sense of self. When you don’t
know yourself, you will be causing your
partner more pain that gain.
Mastering your emotions also involves self
mastery over food, sex, anger, sleep, money
and talk. One or all these five has been and
will continue to be the major driver of
unhappiness in relationships. Do you know
all you need to know about them and how it
affects your relationship?
Conquering Negative Patterns
Negative patterns are the opinions, habits
and behaviors we have formed over time
which are injurious to our love life and
significant other. “I can never wash a
woman’s cloth”, “a man that cannot supply
all my need is not worth it”, “when I talk
you must keep quiet”, “I am superior to
you”, “it’s not wrong if my woman pay all
bills while I lounge to enjoy”, “I can break
this relationship when something little go
wrong”, “I can’t suffer for any man o”, “a
woman’s place is in the kitchen”.
All of these are patterns and I have not even
mentioned habits and behaviours. Patterns
are gotten in two ways, Genetically and
Environmentally. Most men will do some or
all the things their father did in marriage;
same with women – that’s genetic patterns.
Environmental patterns are the ones passed
to you through friends while gisting, having
a drink and while growing up. These
opinions shape your way of life and you
react to your significant other based on
them – You need to conquer them.
To conquer negative patterns is to first
identify them and get an expert or coach to
help you rid them. Then, make a list of your
pre-set patterns; the ones God put in you
before your parents and the environment
passed theirs down to you. Live by these
ones from now on and you will be amazed at
the result in your relationship and marriage.
Becoming an Asset
I’m already running out of space, I can’t dig
deep into this. One question for you though.
Is your partner better now that they are
with you than when they were on their own?
What significant contribution do you plan to
add to your partner’s life (physical and
spiritual) in the next 12 months? This will
give you an idea.
Becoming Extremely Teachable
Just a few questions for you here too:
When was the last time you learnt something
new especially in the area of relationship
and marriage? Do you always insist on
having it your own way? Do you believe you
are more intelligent than your spouse? How
often do you apologise? Does it take you
‘one year’ to accept your partner’s apology
when offended? When was the last time you
allowed your partner have it his/her way
just to make them feel great?
No matter how intelligent you think you are,
if you are always executing your ideas
without asking for your partner’s opinion,
you are not teachable.
Your problem is not communication, when
you become an asset and becomes extremely
teachable, you will learn and master
communication. Your problem is not
money, when you master your emotions and
self, you will know what you are great at and
will turn it into cash. Your problem is not
your mother-in-law, when you conquer
negative patterns and become an asset, your
attitude will change towards her and hers
will change towards you. Your problem is
not even sex, you only need to learn new
ways to sexually satisfy – that’s also being
teachable.
What you call the problem is not the
problem, the problem is that you have not
become The High-Value Partner™ and you
are in a relationship with someone who is
also not one.
These four pillars I shared with you are the
process under The High-Value Partner
Program™ which I take individuals, partners
and couples through in my coaching
program.

Please Advice!! My Fiancee Hit Me But Has Promised To Change , Should I Go Ahead And Marry Him ?

My fiance and I are based in the UK and
have been dating for 2 years. We are
getting married in June this year and all
plans are set. I however got the greatest
shock of my life on Feb 14th.
He had came to my flat a day before and a
male friend of mine called me at night
while I was sleeping and he saw the call. I
woke up in morning only to be met with
accusations and name-calling. He even
threatened to call my people to cancel the
wedding and left my flat in anger.
I called my mum to report his behaviour.
My parents subsequently advised me to go
and apologize to him in order to bring
peace. I found out when I got to his place
that my mum had even called him to
apologize on my behalf.
As soon as I got there, he started the
name-calling again, calling me names like
ashawo, cheap, whore and the likes, and
before I knew it, this very calm man I
have known for the past two years turned
into a different person. He was behaving
like a completely mad person.
He locked the door and started beating me
and pulling my hair. He took out a knife
and threatened to kill me if I didn’t
confess that I’m sleeping with the guy who
called me on Saturday night. Some of my
braids came off, my dress was completely
torn and I had bruises all over. He ceased
my phone so I couldn’t call in the police
and held me hostage for close to an hour.
I cried the whole time, pleading with him
to free me. Just around that time, my
mum started calling me and he picked the
call and told her we just had a small fight
and I was crying. My mum asked to speak
to me and I told her everything that
happened.
Surprisingly, my mum told me these things
happen in marriages and I shouldn’t let
other people know our problems. My mum
said lots of women go through this once in
a while and I should stop crying and not
do anything that will bring about the
cancellation of our wedding.
He also started crying too, pleading that
he was very sorry and didn’t know what
came over him. I then left and came to my
place. He’s been calling and texting me
since then but I’ve refused to respond. I
am in total shock! I am also disappointed
at my mum’s reaction to all of this.
Honestly, I’m scared for my life because if
I go ahead to marry him, it might continue
and I have read about men killing their
spouses in marriages.
He is not a violet person usually though
and very remorseful about how he treated
me. What should I do? Should I cancel the
wedding or give him another chance. I
need your advice.

Ladies See the 7 Definite Signs Your Man Truly Loves you

01. He Treats You Well..
A guy who loves you is considerate of your feelings,
needs and desires. He makes them as important as
his desires and needs. He is concerned with your
well-being and will do things to make your life
better, sometimes going out of his way to do so.
Not only does he treat you well, he is also good to
your family and friends.
02. He Is Generous With His Time..
He doesn’t let too much time go by without seeing
you. When he is available, he wants to be with you
and chooses to spend his time with you. If you’re in
a long distance relationship, he is spending time
with you whenever your schedules allow. And you
are together during major holidays such as
Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New
Year’s Eve.
03. He Makes You A Priority..
You are at the forefront of his mind and he
maintains contact in between the times you see
each other. He considers you when making
decisions and is considerate about doing things you
want to do. When speaking, he uses “we” instead of
“I”, and includes you in his future plans.
04. He Cares For You ..
A guy who loves you is genuinely happy for you
when good things happen to you. He is
compassionate when you’re going through
challenges. This guy is there for you in the good
and not so good times. He thinks about you and
surprises you with tokens of affection outside of
your birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day. He
will also challenge you by calling you out on stuff to
help you become a better person.
05. He Wants People To Know About You ..
He is affectionate with you in public by holding your
hand, putting his arm around you and/or hugging
you. He is proud to be with you and has introduced
you to his family and friends. He brings you to
family functions and get-togethers with friends, and
takes you to company events.
06. He Treats Your Relationship With
Integrity ..
He is trustworthy and loyal to you and your
relationship. He is upfront with you about his past
girlfriends and skeletons in his closet. He does what
he says and will let you know if he’s not able to.
When issues come up, he is willing to work through
them. Although he isn’t perfect, he tries to be a
better man.
07. He Wants The Best For You ..
A guy who loves you encourages you to do things
you love, even if it means doing these things
without him. He wants you to spend time with
family and friends. He encourages you to find and
live your passions, knowing that if you are happy
and engaged with life, you’ll be happy and engaged
in your relationship with him.

Woman Proposes To Her Boyfriend In a Club … Ladies Can You Do It ?

Lately I have been seeing a lot of women taking matters into their own hands and proposing to their boyfriends.
Do you think that this is a form of emasculation?
Or do you think that people should have the right to do whatever they want to do in their own relationships?...some people  believe if you love somebody just walk-up him or her and let it out.

See the 7 Obstacles That Might Have Kept Some Of Our Ladies From Getting Married In 2015

Here are some hindrances that could have delayed
the marriages of some of our qualified Ladies:
1. Traditional Embargo:
It beats my imagination how some folks still hold
firmly to this; if he’s not from my place, I dare not
marry him. While, it’s good to heed to parent’s
advice, its you who will stay single till 30, not them.
Please, pray and watch. Be wise.
2. “Confused” Expectations In The Kind of guy
she wants.
I need a faithful guy, handsome, tall, godly , macho,
good with kids, he might drink socially,good cook…
if you notice; what relationship has being GODLY
and DRINKING alcohol share? My advice is, write
what you really really need in him. A goal not
written is a wish. Wishes aren’t horses anymore…
while writing, remember: If you want an 100% man,
get clay and mould him yourself. Wanting a man
that can cook just because you can’t, is denying
one of the core essence that makes you a mother,
wife and a woman. Learn how to cook, better. Let
him just be assisting. My advice.
3. Unrealistic Financial Expectations
If he’s not earning above 100k, I’m not interested.
Heard that before? That’s even the least. This days,
just get an ok car and they’re all over you. Who
wan marry poor man? I get. Dangote once slept
under a truck for months. If ladies truly have
“eyes” to see which guy will be successful or not;
while under the truck, politician’s daughters would
have been coming to say “Hi” to his rickety former
self.
Moral Lesson: Still, follow a man for his vision.
Not just for his BIG television.
4. War between her and in-laws
If he truly loves me, he’ll put me above his
siblings. Some girls have not yet become part and
parcel of the family and their character is already
exposing them. Call it wisdom, not hypocrisy. In-
laws deserve respect, why? They are humans like
you. I’m not speaking for myself though. Place
yourself in their shoes. A girl wants to marry your
brother and she’s acting all “rude” and “sensitive”.
You won’t tell him, go ahead. Will you? Unless
you’re like her tho…
5. Immaturity in handling little matters
He forgot my birthday, he’s not worth being my
“ideal” boo. I broke up with him. Did you just say
that? Its absolutely wrong to forget your girl’s
birthday but is that the only way of solving that
ish? Is there no better way? I’ve had to call
someone to call me and wish me a Happy Birthday,
with smiles on. It’s no big deal. I learnt it. We all
can do same. Be flexible and not immature. Most
times, her actions isn’t stemming from his
forgetting to call her but from many other things. I
understand. You can break up with him, if you
confirmed he’s been cheating. But, be sure. Let me
not derail. Next point will explain that…
6. Pride/Ego/Unforgiveness/Unnecessary
“Forming”
I’m not perfect but I know that unforgiveness pulls
one back and separates two lovebirds. If he cheated
on you for the first time and he reports himself
that it was a mistake- haba, you shouldn’t break
up. One more chance. Pride and ego are the most
reasons some are still lonely. Ordinary PM, you dey
form, “I don’t do PMs, and you are single” I think,
if you’re searching, be open a bit. That guy might
be the next Dangote…oops! I just pressed a button
there… Some girls form too much. You play hard to
get to someone you like as though there is not
enough serious business in marriage already: do
sharp sharp joor. When he turns away now, you’ll
blame point 7.
7. Spiritual Attacks
One man saw the devil crying, he asked him, Badoo,
why you crying? He replied, “Every little thing, they
blame me for it. They even lie on my head.”
Well, spiritual attacks are real though. But I
believe, “the curse causeless doesn’t come”. Ladies
don’t pray too much in church UNTIL the pastor
mentions, “every devil blindfolding his eyes from
seeing any single lady here, die!” Then, you’ll see
her in action. Onetime, I saw one pretty babe who
told me how she went one a very long fasting and
praying sessions to get her man. They pray, but the
only issue is some don’t watch.
It’s our prayer that God will locate every one of
our single ladies in the house Next year, 2016.
Amen!