Here are some hindrances that could have delayed
the marriages of some of our qualified Ladies:
1. Traditional Embargo:
It beats my imagination how some folks still hold
firmly to this; if he’s not from my place, I dare not
marry him. While, it’s good to heed to parent’s
advice, its you who will stay single till 30, not them.
Please, pray and watch. Be wise.
2. “Confused” Expectations In The Kind of guy
she wants.
I need a faithful guy, handsome, tall, godly , macho,
good with kids, he might drink socially,good cook…
if you notice; what relationship has being GODLY
and DRINKING alcohol share? My advice is, write
what you really really need in him. A goal not
written is a wish. Wishes aren’t horses anymore…
while writing, remember: If you want an 100% man,
get clay and mould him yourself. Wanting a man
that can cook just because you can’t, is denying
one of the core essence that makes you a mother,
wife and a woman. Learn how to cook, better. Let
him just be assisting. My advice.
3. Unrealistic Financial Expectations
If he’s not earning above 100k, I’m not interested.
Heard that before? That’s even the least. This days,
just get an ok car and they’re all over you. Who
wan marry poor man? I get. Dangote once slept
under a truck for months. If ladies truly have
“eyes” to see which guy will be successful or not;
while under the truck, politician’s daughters would
have been coming to say “Hi” to his rickety former
self.
Moral Lesson: Still, follow a man for his vision.
Not just for his BIG television.
4. War between her and in-laws
If he truly loves me, he’ll put me above his
siblings. Some girls have not yet become part and
parcel of the family and their character is already
exposing them. Call it wisdom, not hypocrisy. In-
laws deserve respect, why? They are humans like
you. I’m not speaking for myself though. Place
yourself in their shoes. A girl wants to marry your
brother and she’s acting all “rude” and “sensitive”.
You won’t tell him, go ahead. Will you? Unless
you’re like her tho…
5. Immaturity in handling little matters
He forgot my birthday, he’s not worth being my
“ideal” boo. I broke up with him. Did you just say
that? Its absolutely wrong to forget your girl’s
birthday but is that the only way of solving that
ish? Is there no better way? I’ve had to call
someone to call me and wish me a Happy Birthday,
with smiles on. It’s no big deal. I learnt it. We all
can do same. Be flexible and not immature. Most
times, her actions isn’t stemming from his
forgetting to call her but from many other things. I
understand. You can break up with him, if you
confirmed he’s been cheating. But, be sure. Let me
not derail. Next point will explain that…
6. Pride/Ego/Unforgiveness/Unnecessary
“Forming”
I’m not perfect but I know that unforgiveness pulls
one back and separates two lovebirds. If he cheated
on you for the first time and he reports himself
that it was a mistake- haba, you shouldn’t break
up. One more chance. Pride and ego are the most
reasons some are still lonely. Ordinary PM, you dey
form, “I don’t do PMs, and you are single” I think,
if you’re searching, be open a bit. That guy might
be the next Dangote…oops! I just pressed a button
there… Some girls form too much. You play hard to
get to someone you like as though there is not
enough serious business in marriage already: do
sharp sharp joor. When he turns away now, you’ll
blame point 7.
7. Spiritual Attacks
One man saw the devil crying, he asked him, Badoo,
why you crying? He replied, “Every little thing, they
blame me for it. They even lie on my head.”
Well, spiritual attacks are real though. But I
believe, “the curse causeless doesn’t come”. Ladies
don’t pray too much in church UNTIL the pastor
mentions, “every devil blindfolding his eyes from
seeing any single lady here, die!” Then, you’ll see
her in action. Onetime, I saw one pretty babe who
told me how she went one a very long fasting and
praying sessions to get her man. They pray, but the
only issue is some don’t watch.
It’s our prayer that God will locate every one of
our single ladies in the house Next year, 2016.
Amen!
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